Have an Unhealthy Relationship with Online Dating?
What is a series about online dating doing on a psychology blog? The quality of a person’s relationships is synonymous with mental health. And, if you’re single you’re in a relationship with dating. You may be dating a lot, a little, or avoiding it entirely. No matter which best describes you, you’re in a relationship with dating–and most likely online dating is a major part of this relationship. As a practicing clinical psychologist in New York City, adventures in online dating are a part of the conversation with literally every single one of the unattached patients I treat. Some people do have success with online dating. However, one thing I have never heard a patient say is: “I love online dating. It’s so much fun.” I don’t claim my sample is representative, but my patients’ view is consistent with commentary I’ve received from friends and colleagues. The refrains are consistent. “It’s annoying.” “Lots of shady people.” “It’s a major time suck.” “People look nothing like their pictures.” “She ghosted me.” And so on… With all …